Anger Management Therapy with Online Service in Australia

What is it that causes people to choose anger?

Anger is an individual personal choice, although in saying that, the choice often occurs from an unconscious level of the mind, at our very core of our psyche, that super processor within which is linked to our very spirituality. Unconscious decisions occur many times faster than we can consciously think and process data in our minds, hence we are not aware we have made the decision to frustrate and become angry, but we are aware of the effect of that decision, we experience less peace, we feel love-less, uncomfortable, attacked, criticized, and our rage can follow very quickly.

We are not consciously aware that we have made the decision to anger, so when we feel uncomfortable we look around externally to ourselves for the source of our discomfort, interpreting others as coming from a stance of attack, we can then pin the blame on the first available source we can find, and react accordingly… with defensiveness. Others may do likewise, interpreting your defensiveness as attack, responding from the same unconscious habits they have learned over the years, and around the cycle goes, escalating in tension, anger, and decreasing in loving connection all the time!

The answer to the question, “What is it that makes me angry?” is that “I do!” I make the decision myself! When I perceive that others are coming from a space of love-less-ness, a space of less spiritual flow, I choose to do the same. When you think about it, this is not a sane choice and it will never work, the decision to anger will never bring me the peace, love and connection, or the spiritual oneness that I seek, and will not help others to do the same either!

What is online anger management?

Anger management in online counseling, then, to be effective, needs to help bring about the circumstances that we seek on a conscious spiritual level, and that is a feeling of inner calmness, peace and love to be returning. Anger management online in short involves connecting with your online therapist via Skype video conference and exploring together a series of key steps for returning to peace and correcting confused perceptions, steps that can be learned, practiced, implemented and, in time, become the source of new unconscious automatic habits.

The first of the key steps involves practicing mindfulness. The ability to be watch and measure your own inner barometer of comfort. Asking yourself repeatedly, “On a scale of 1 to 10 how calm and peaceful do I feel right now, when a score of 10 is definitely very peaceful?” Don’t wait for tension to occur before you start asking, make it a habit to ask yourself repeatedly and often throughout the day. Remember practice and repetition builds new habits!

The next step is to respond to the result of your calmness score. If you are up in the high 7-10 mark of great calmness, reward yourself with a big inner hug for making great wise decisions. If you are moving down the scale into the lower 6-3 mark of frustration and tension, then you need to step back and make some choices that will help you to return to the very peaceful 7-10 space.

Remember that on an unconscious level you have decided for non-peace and now on a conscious level you have the ability to choose for peace! This is a wonderful true power that stems and flows from your spiritual centre! Remember to reward yourself for making the wise decisions to return to love and peace, because, with reward, new habits develop faster.

If you are in the lowest space of anger and rage, 2-1 and below, perhaps even zero or going into the minuses, then there is a good chance that you are now in a space of fight, flight, or freeze, and if anger is your habit, there is a high chance of fight!

You have now handed the decision over to your unconscious mind to deal with the situation because your conscious mind is becoming totally confused and fearful. Your unconscious mind is now coming up with whatever has been previously learned and pre-programmed. If frustration and anger is your automatic habit then the learning you have experienced throughout your life is not spiritually sound and this habit will not be helpful to you in the long term! It is a response of love-less-ness that will leave you and your relationships bankrupt of any love and connection.

You are now in a space where you need some professional help with an online counsellor and fast! I would recommend a series of online counselling sessions spanning long term help to assist you to develop new constructive habits that lead towards self-actualization, the awareness of the true spiritual loving essence that you truly are.

How can online anger management therapy help? For Online Anger Management to be effective the counselling online mentor helping you to develop such skills and mindful awareness’s needs to have a very strong and secure awareness of the true loving spiritual essence that they are and be able to securely hold that awareness of themselves, and for you too, even when you are “losing it.” In doing so, the online therapist is able to demonstrate these mindfulness skills for you to experience in live online interaction where you can learn in safety. Online therapists are able to help you to identify skills and practices that return you to the experience of your true loving nature and provide this help in the comfort of your own home or office.

The online therapists and counsellors supporting people in Anger Management over the web internationally, nationally and locally, have worked long and hard at developing these new skills and refining ways to pass them on to you electronically. Online counsellors provide digital handouts, e-books, e-courses and video webinars all targeted at helping you develop new habits fast and efficiently!

The first step, as mentioned before, of mindfully observing your level of peace, warrants repeating until it is locked in, to strengthen your awareness of your own inner peace meter. The earlier a fall in your love and peacefulness can be detected, the easier it is to implement change and correct the decision for peace, restoring you to inner love and calmness.

How to create an Anger Plan:

An Online Anger Management Plan involves working with you to help you to process the four key steps. Firstly developing the skills to notice when the level of peace is dropping and to notice that quickly and early. Secondly discovering ways that one can step back from the tense interaction and break the cycle of defensiveness, returning the control of the situation back to you, and enabling you to return to calmness and make wise decisions based on the truth of who you are, a loving and caring person who values peace.

Thirdly, then, the focus with your online mentor is on helping you to develop a virtual spiritual backpack full of handy means and ways of returning yourself to the awareness of love, peace and calmness that you truly are. Such things as taking a walk to burn off adrenaline and focusing on things you love while you go, or taking a moment to pat a pet and express caring, or even thinking of doing that, being mindful of your environment and of this second right now, anything really that helps you create a moment of stillness within yourself. You may have a word, or a phrase that helps you to instill peace and calmness within yourself. Simply asking, “Do I want the problem here, or the solution?” can really helpful.

Fourthly, and most importantly, there is the strengthening of your awareness of who you really are. You are love and peace, you are a caring person and your intent is to live life from a loving and peaceful perspective. Asking yourself what your true intent is in this situation is the key here. Questions that help may include, “What would love do now?” or “How would love respond to this?” If being in a space of true peace and contentment signifies self-actualization, then asking such questions is seeking an answer from the self-actualized self that you are. There is a very high chance that the responses to these questions, when coming from a foundation of love, will be helpful, and if they are not, give yourself the biggest inner hug for trying!

Therapists and counsellors who practice and teach Anger Management online recommend that you start noticing and being aware of your inner meter of peace today. That you begin making a list of ways that you can step back from a situation that you bring tension too. And also a list of ways that you are able to return yourself to peace. Email those lists to your therapist and the work is halfway done! Your counsellor will help you to strengthen these new found habits, finding ways to make them quickly automatic that work for you! They will also help you develop ways of responding when others choose to go to love-less-ness, ways that help you to keep your true power of love and peace, while handing the responsibility back to others for keeping their own peace.

Your loving centre is already there, deep inside of you, and just waiting patiently and calmly for you to connect to it. Let your online counsellor and psychotherapist help you discover your unique way of doing that! 

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